STEADY AND SURE

💐Til death do us part 💐

This will be a different kind of blog than I usually write but hey….it’s my own personal blog so I reckon I can write it however I want to, right?  LOL

This is something that’s been on my heart.  

My daughter was reading to me sections from one of my books called “Created to be His Help Meet”

and the section she read has stayed on my heart.   

She read how God created three kinds of men.    

1- command 

2- visionary

3- steady

She read about the different characteristics of each one and as she read I seen some of the qualities of each one in my own husband but he most definitely fell under the “steady” man.  

The steady man God created my husband to be seems at times to go unappreciated but inside honestly I just don’t have the words to express the appreciation for his solid rock steadiness and my heart is at most times overwhelmed at how steady he is.   I admit that I can at times grow frustrated when he delays a response as I begin thinking he’s either ignoring me or something is wrong with his processing.    It’s those times that I’ve let the devil begin planting negative seeds and I react with harshness.   When in reality he’s not delayed because of processing or because he’s ignoring…. but he’s delayed because he’s “Mr Steady” and he’s weighing his reply.    

He doesn’t use a lot of words but the words he chooses to use are full of wisdom.    

I’ve watched him over the past years grow boldly into the spiritual leader that God has called all men to be.    

I’ve watched my husband display a Christ like steady character.   

God’s Word will tell you that God is our steady eternal rock.   He’s caring, He provides our every need, and God is faithful.   

He’s our strong tower and all we have to do is run to Him for safety.  

(PROVERBS 18:10)

I have to self check and make certain that I’m treating him with the love and respect he deserves and honor him as his wife and honestly I fail more than I want to admit.       

Just like we should go to the Lord with our requests and wait for His leading and His answer….we should also go before our husbands the same way.   

What is the reason we don’t ask the Lord for His leading and ask for discernment on a situation?    Hmmmm….. could it sometimes be because we are actually afraid of His answer?   Could it be that we are afraid He will not tell us what we want to hear?

Are these the same reasons we have communication break downs in our marriages?   

Are we afraid to ask for our husbands to give us their answer?   

Let your heart answer honestly…. my answer will have to be exactly that.    

In my selfishness I sometimes don’t want to ask…and sometimes don’t ask because I’m afraid of hearing the answer.    

What happened to “Not my will, Lord, but Yours be done”??

I have a desire to do better and fully honor, most of all, the Lord…. but also my husband.     

So why do I fail more often than I really care to admit?

Why do I feel the urge to micromanage even when I tell myself I’m not going to?

Why do I feel like I’m out of control when I’m handing over control to my husband since he is the one ordained by God to be in control? 

I wish I had these answers so I could share them but I’m still waiting on the Lord to work on me so I can better myself in those areas.   

Lord, help me to better myself in the area of honoring my wonderful godly husband.    Help me not to undermine my husband by micromanaging but help me to build him up and focus on his strengths and not his weaknesses.    Help me in this world where men in general have had their masculinity attacked be bold enough and humble enough to be submissive to my husband the way you’ve called me to be.    Remind me each time I make an attempt to step out of submissiveness that not only does it dishonor my husband but that it dishonors You.    

COLOSSIANS  3:18

Thank you Lord for the gift of marriage so that I get to spend each day throughout my life with a man that loves and adores me and that I love and adore him as well.        

EPHESIANS  4:9-10

Help me to be a virtuous woman that can be a crown to my husband.   

PROVERBS  31:10-31

Lord, help me to be a shining example of a Proverbs 31 woman in all I do.   

Grow us spiritually together and let our lives together honor You.    

Forgive me in my failures and restore to me Grace.    

Give me wisdom and discernment and let me have a sweet spirit at all times. 

Thank you for giving me a best friend to go through life with and I will joyfully be his companion until death do us part. 

 Thank You that we can walk with You daily and wake us in our spiritual slumber so that we see all things from Your point of view.    

Bless our marriage with many more wonderful years together so that together we will honor and praise You.    In Jesus name… amen